Fifty Shades of ….DONE (The End)

Finished the book and I’m not running out to buy the next two books…

SPOILER ALERT…(Stop here if you don’t want to know how book one ends)

Why not read books Two and Three?  

Because they’ll likely follow a pattern…

At the end of the first book, Ana walks away. No surprise there.  Saw that one coming from the beginning of the book one. Which means book two will have them not being able to live without each other.

Books two and three will clean up much of what the author alludes to in book one:

  1. There are signs in book one that Mr. Grey’s business dealings may skate the edge of dark, as well. Could be a story there.
  2. There’s Ana’s childhood, which seems to have been a bumpy ride.
  3. The ‘friendship’ with Mrs. Robinson? It is impossible to have a friendship with a controlling person—because they have an agenda. Anybody capable of manipulating, mistreating—or even being unkind to a child CANNOT be a ‘nice’ person. Or a person to serve as a friend. I assume that Mrs. Robinson is waiting Ana out, thinking she won’t last any longer than the others. Mrs. Robinson is in it for something—likely because she wants Christian.
  4. The Robinson/Grey relationship was a BIG SECRET and began when Mr. Grey was underage, while living with his parents. I would expect a bomb to drop with that one.  Otherwise the dinner scene where Ana met Christian’s family at his parents’ house is pointless. Bringing the family in shows that Christian’s life was happy and normal with loving parents and siblings. And family secrets always come out. In real life. And in fiction. There will be drama here.
  5. Further, there’s Kate dating Mr. Grey’s brother and living with Ana. She’ll for sure find paperwork, something on Ana’s computer or Blackberry. She’ll be onto the situation at some point—and be exactly the tenacious character she is painted out to be in book one. More drama.
  6. Then there’s the ex-subs that ‘wanted more.’ (A relationship, marriage?) One or two will probably show up trying to get Mr. Grey back. And it won’t sit any better with Ana, than Mrs. Robinson does.

By the end of book three, everything should be resolved and tied up neatly with a bow. In fact, Christian and Ana will probably get married and ride off into the sunset.

It’s easy to stop with ‘happily ever after’ because that is where REAL life starts.

What made me uneasy?

Not the sex, actually. (Adults tend to have sex and each in their own way.)

I’ve always been very maternal. That Mr. Grey was somehow damaged as an infant and young child–then abused as a teenager and young adult disturbed me.

I saw the following comment on another blog post. (And  would credit its author, but I couldn’t find it again.) She made the point well:

I know I’m in the minority but I felt Fifty Shades was an uncomfortable read. It wasn’t so much the BDSM issues but more the psychological damage done by child abuse and the ramifications that made me cringe a bit. I know why Christian acts like he does. Learning about all those control issues just doesn’t feel romantic to me. Love shouldn’t be that difficult. I’m just not sure that Ana wasn’t overcome about how sexually attractive and successful Christian was. Would she have been so eager to deal with all his issues if he’d been some average Joe?

Some good points. Additionally, doesn’t it take a person (Ana in this story) with ‘issues’ to tolerate another with issues? At least issues as severe as Mr. Greys seem to be? What does that say about Ana?

The ‘control’ thing.

I guess I’m not a girl who considers control (or controlling behavior) romantic. I’ve always seen those with control issues as weak, insecure and lacking confidence.

Far more romantic to me are shows of strength. A man who says, “Go visit your mother and have a great time. I’ll take you to dinner when you return.” Not one who acts tough, uses harsh words, then comes running (or flying) across a couple of time zones to ‘see’ me. I would not feel loved or cared about. I would feel suffocated, trapped.

In my vision of the ideal relationship, two people are at their best—they are stronger together. Happier together. Each is their authentic self, with freedom and plenty of space. Don’t mean to quote Dr. Phil, but a I see a relationship as ‘a soft place to land.’ The place to find unconditional love, support  and affection. Where we retreat at the end of the day to find peace and acceptance. (Not drama, torment and uncertainty…)

Probably I was lucky: I grew up with parents who didn’t just teach or ‘talk’ about those things–they were a living example. ( I’ve had a special aunt and uncle to guide me, as well.) And though my marriage ended in divorce, I had something very close to that ideal for a long time.

Maybe that’s why I have difficulty identifying with all the darkness and drama. Why I don’t find it romantic.

And I might end up picking up a copy of the other books some day. You never know…

But for today, I’m going to the beach to enjoy a bit of sunshine…

 

 

 

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